My book The Buddha in Me, the Buddha in You was published in February 2016 by Rider Books, the ‘mind body spirit’ arm of Penguin Random House. In April 2017, the French version, Le Bonheur dort au fond de Soi was published by Flammarion, one of France’s most famous publishing houses. It has already sold thousands of copies worldwide and has dozens of 5-star reviews.
- It’s a book for anyone who wants to be happier but is not sure where to begin,
- It’s a book for therapists, counsellors and coaches looking for fresh spiritual insights,
- It’s a book for people who care about the state of the world but feel powerless to change it,
- It’s a book for practising Buddhists looking for a more accessible way to talk about Buddhism.
I hope that if you read The Buddha in Me, The Buddha in You you will feel more enlightened, uplifted and optimistic. More grateful, more confident and more inspired to make a difference. I hope you will discover deeper insights into how life works and feel a fluttering in your belly that says daily life is wonderful and worth waking up for. I hope you will connect with even more of your own and other people’s awesomeness and live with more courage, more meaning and more joy.
Richard Jackson MBE, creator of the acclaimed Winning Edge personal development programme:
“Reading this book is one of the most humbling experiences I have had in a very long time. It took my thoughts and, more importantly, my emotions to a depth that I found truly challenging and incredibly inspirational. David Hare has the ability to express potentially complex ideas in a way that is immediately understandable; he has a wonderful ‘way with words’. I am in awe of this book.”
David Taylor, Professor of Leadership at Warwick Business School and author of The Naked Leader:
“This book is an inspiration to anyone who wants to make fast and forever changes in their lives. It contains relevant and powerful insights about life, love, leadership and the challenges faced by today’s world. It will even help you discover who you really are.”
Snippets from the book
If you knew in your heart that life was precious and worthy of the deepest respect, might you naturally be more determined, more respectful and more grateful?
We are all magnificent works in progress.
Daisaku Ikeda: “We are unlimited beings. Our struggle to surmount our obstacles and sufferings and fulfil our dreams is always finally the struggle to overcome the limitations we have accepted within our own heart.”
A Buddha is simply someone who is awakened to how life works. How to get the most from it. How to give your all to it. How to be happy. How to create value in society.
I am not my past. I am not my psychometric profile. I am not the role I have played to survive so far. I am not the product of my childhood. I am not my job description. I am who I choose to become.
The most powerful teachings shatter our illusions, bulldoze our comfort zones and remove our subconscious and karmic excuses for being unhappy.
We venerate clever brains, when what the world needs most today is wise hearts.
Trying to change your life without transforming your mind is as pointless as painting over rust.
We do not suffer because life is difficult, we suffer because we expect it to be easy.
The problem is never the problem, it’s the mindset from which you approach the problem that’s the problem.
The Universe responds to the intentions in the depths of our hearts, not to superficial mind games.
When I am arrogant, I win and you lose. When I lack self-esteem, I lose and you win. When we both lack self-esteem, I lose and you lose. When we are both confident, we both win.
I compare myself only to my own potential or to inspirational mentors.
Anger is too often the first reaction of the stupid when it needs to be the last resort of the wise.
The biggest threat to our happiness is underestimating either our negative or our positive potential, our ability both to destroy and to create value.
There are times when you feel that all you have left is your determination. And in the end, that is always enough.
When considering different philosophies and ways of life, ask yourself these four questions: Is it profound – does it reach deep inside the heart? Is it complete – does it answer all the difficult questions about life? Is it practical – can we use it every day? Does it work? And is it inclusive – can anyone do it?
Fear of failure comes from the illusion that you need to be perfect all the time. This just produces paralysis. Life is so much more exciting when you give yourself permission to fail.
If you are struggling to achieve a goal, ask yourself, how sure am I that I want it? How badly do I really really want it? How much do I really really believe I deserve it? And how much action have I really taken to make it happen?
Shall I be courageous and determined myself? Can I be brave enough, if necessary, to swim against the tide? Or will I follow meekly and at a safe distance in the slipstream of the brave?
“A sword is useless in the hands of a coward.” Courage is utterly essential. Paralysed by fear we are nothing; and we do nothing. When we are brave, we are everything and can do anything.
Choose a mentor who is both strict and compassionate. Compassion without strictness is comforting, but ineffective. Strictness without compassion is disrespectful.
The most painful lessons in life are either about learning to be more confident, or more humble. And sometimes both.
The Buddha in Me, the Buddha in You
A handbook for happiness
English language version
(also available on Kindle)
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Le bonheur dort en soi
French language version
(also available on Kindle)
“This book is an inspiration to anyone who wants to make fast and forever changes in their lives. It contains relevant and powerful insights about life, leadership and the challenges faced by today’s world. It will even help you discover who you really are.”David Taylor, Professor of Leadership at Warwick Business School and author of The Naked Leader
“A call to action and so full of empowering words of wisdom, you could fill a stadium with sticky notes! … Get your highlighter out and dog ear more pages than you ever thought possible.”James DuMont, Hollywood actor. (Seabiscuit, Jurassic World, Oceans 13 etc…)
“A modern GPS guide for navigating the road to real happiness in this lifetime. David Hare distills thousands of years of Buddhist concepts into actionable steps, filled with the same wit and compassion that made his blog such a treasure.”Justin Simien, award-winning Hollywood filmmaker and author.
“This is a book that will help you change the soundtrack of your mind at the deepest level. It will make you feel more grateful, more confident and more optimistic. Approach with caution… it may just remove all your excuses for unhappiness and underperformance!”TV hypnotherapist Steve Miller
“Reading David’s book is one of the most humbling experiences I have had in a very long time. It took my thoughts and, more importantly, my emotions to a depth that I found truly challenging and incredibly inspirational. I am in awe of this book.”Richard Jackson MBE, Creator of Winning Edge personal development programme
“Let your inner Buddha be your buddy. Timeless wisdom for a crazy world. Packed with inspiration.”Andy Cope, author of Be Brilliant Every Day and The Art of Being Brilliant.